Saturday, October 20, 2007

It's been A Year!



Well, it has been a year since I finished my mission. I guess I have to write something......My mission truely was an important piece of my jigsaw-puzzled life. It expanded my eternal perspective.I have seen more than a glimpse of God's hand in His secred work. Eventhough I cherish my mission memory, I know the better is yet to come.

I have heard so many RMs who said they wish they could go back to their mission. I love my mission, but don't want to feel like- finishing a mission is like walking down the top of the mountain. We look up there and see the glory and feel like there's nothing down here..Vice versa, I want to look back and would be able to smile and gain more strengh to climb up the mountain just to gimpse the next accomplishment.

Well... There are so many things that I could do, and surely so many of them have helped me experience the same joy I did on my mission. In fact, I don't really miss my mission at all. Why? I guess maybe because our "mission" that has something to do with people whom we love will never end. This must be the reason the "sisters" who taught me 13 years ago still write me and follow up on me :)

I went on my mission in hope that my life might touch others and to share with them the blessings, and the miracles of the living gospel. To my surprise, I'm touched and blessed by the love of those whom I'm called to served. They became my family, my friends. I was lifted while I thought my hands were lifting others.

The best part is that I gained best friends from my mission. Friends, whose friendship is developed out of the testimony. We shared spiritual experiences, testimony, Christlike love,we could talk forever about some wierd things like second coming, outer darkness, etc. while I cannot do the same with my nonmember friend. This is a bond that is stronger than any other.

I've seen a lot in my mission. I've seen enough of the lives of others-invertigators, families (happy ones and broken ones) , members,other missionaries etc. As a missionary, I'm trusted by them to give counsels. I shared with them how to build faith, deal with chalanges and hardships in life. What so funny is that.. when it comes to my life now. Will I be able to live the same way I've taught others to live? To trust the Lord, to pray unceasingly, to attend 3 hour church every Sunday, to serve unselfishly, to forgive and forget, to do so many other things that are much easier to tell others to do than do it yourself.

Well, I think i've done fine so far this past year:) Yes, there are so many that I have to improve still ...

Speaking of mission, I remember that the sister who taught me wrote me many months ago and asked me this question I didn't get to answer her yet...The question is:

"I have a question for you. why do you think so many Thai RMs go inactive. It has puzzled me for 10 years and I just don't understand. I loved and served with so many of them and now what? They just don't care? I would love to hear any insight you may have."

Yes, this past 13 years I've seen countless of Thai RMs go inactive even the one that first introduced the gospel to me. In my first area that I served. I did visit that sister who first taught me the gospel. I talked to her, looked into her eyes and I knew she knew it is still true. I don't think she doesn't care. But as we know, we all can lose our testimony and faith. I believe no one can forget a testimony, I've never forget mine. There was a time when i stopped coming to church. I went inactive but I did know the truth. However, the truth is no good to those who have no faith - faith comes when we plant the seed - through excercise our faith to grow that seed. When we have faith in something we will act upon it. In the scripture it said that "man could not act for himself save it should be that he was enticed by the one or the other." Without faith we have no motivation to do it.

I believe so many of them stop coming to church and stop doing the things they suppose to do because they are not enticed by the spirit. So the truth they still know, but spirit is what they lose. That's a reason anybody go inactive. For the Thai RMs, however, life is especially hard..since our family/society is not in full support in what we believe. If we are not valiant in our testimony, anything could happen...Not just go inactive ..you know? but even go contrary to the way of the Lord and sin

Why is that?

I believe many of them were not well prepared to serve their mission. Many Thai members want to serve because they are impressed with missionary" image" things. Most of them that went on their mission were just new members. That's one of the problems. As a new member, the first 2 years in the church is a "honeymoon" period. Everything is new, fun, fresh, and great! Then, they wish to share this great experience they decided to become a missionary. Little did they know what they are expected to do in a mission. I myself, found that mission is not what I expected to be. Eventhough mission could be fulfilling, it's not fun all the time. We have to work hard, focus, give of ourselve and even forget ourselve. How could I/they know since we saw the missionaries like 2-3 times a week and they seem to have a great time doing what they are doing. Some of them just believe hanging out with farangs and other missionaries would be fun!

Then, in mission...some of them did develope their testimony , become a great missionaries. If they did, they will more likely stay active in the church. On the other hand, many struggled throughout their mission. Having fun playing around, unfocus, and be a burden instead of a blessing. However, mission was still great for them since they didn't have to worry about anything. They were having fun "doing missionary things". So, the mission time was somehow is a honeymoon period still. What happen after they finished their mission? They faced the real world. Things have changed. Some haven't finished college and have to go back to school. And to catch up with things was not easy at all. Some dreamed that they might be able to get a better job, get married and even go to the States, and it didn't happen. They woke up...and there... so many other hardships......which they were not prepared to meet...... these did undo them.

I'm lucky I was through the honey moon long time ago. I faced many trials and even went inactive once. I'd been through so many things which made my mission is just another great experience that helped stregnthen me.

How can we prevent this inactivity of the Thai RMs? Maybe if we help prepare them for their mission, there might be a chance to save them. We all know though that the Lord would permit anybody who "have desires to serve God, ye are called to the work" (D&C 4).... He did told us how to save our soul when he said in the next verse that : "and lo, he that thrusteth in his sickle with his might, the same layeth up in store that he perisheth not, but bringeth salvation to his soul;" A missionary, indeed, has a responsibility to save others and his own soul as well.

No matter what reason that caused any RMs to go inactive, I still know what keeps us active is as simple as praying, reading scriptures and going to church...as simple as that....

“The time will come when no man nor woman will be able to endure on borrowed light. Each will have to be guided by the light within himself. If you do not have it, how can you stand?”

Life of Heber C. Kimball

Sunday, September 16, 2007

ความเชื่อ

We are troubled,

yet not distressed;

we are perplexed,

but not in desspair;

We are persecuted,

but not forsaken;

cast down, but not destroyed.


Wednesday, April 25, 2007

90/10 PriNcipLe~iT caN cHange yoUr Life


Last night I talked to my friend who has been hurt by others. Then I shared with her this principle, since I realized this might be the only way to escape from being hurt by others and maintain our love towards them. Read this principle from Steven Covey and you'll discover that others can't really force you to feel the way you would...



Discover the 90/10 Principle(Author: Stephen Covey)

It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).

" What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? ……….By your reaction.You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction.


Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.Let's use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.What happens next will be determined by how you react.You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairsand change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.


Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.Why? …. Because of how you reacted in the morning.Why did you have a bad day?A) Did the coffee cause it?B) Did your daughter cause it?C) Did the policeman cause it?D) Did you cause it?The answer is “D". You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.


Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why?Because of how you REACTED.You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?


Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.You are told you lost your job.Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.


Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.


The result?

Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache.

We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.


It CAN change your life!!!